Thursday, April 23, 2015

Building Character through Honesty

The following is an excerpt from my book Becoming a Woman of Character. (Available August 2015)

Christine wanted the promotion to district sales manager more than anything. She had the experience and training, but she did not have the advanced degree required for the position. She knew she could perform the duties of district sales manager better than any other candidate.  At first, she dismissed the idea of claiming she had the necessary education when she didn’t. But the more she thought about it, the more it seemed harmless to lie about having the degree. After all, what would it matter once she was secure in the position and helping the company meet its sales goals? Christine thought that the Human Resources department would most likely not verify her degree, because she was well liked and very successful within the company and they trusted her. The more she thought about it, the easier it became to lie. 

Webster defines honesty as “honorable; characterized by integrity and straightforwardness in conduct, in thought and in speech; free from fraud; genuine, fully unadulterated; open; frank; sincere.”

A woman of character is honest. If we live a life of honesty, we are trusted. If we are trusted, we are able to speak into other's lives about Jesus Christ.


There are six things that the Lord hates, seven that are an abomination to him: haughty eyes, a lying tongue, and hands that shed innocent blood, a heart that devises wicked plans, feet that make haste to run to evil, a false witness who breathes out lies, and one who sows discord among brothers. Proverbs 6:16-19

Honesty is more than telling the truth. It is being honest with God, ourselves and others.

We must be honest with God. God is all-knowing so it’s not like He doesn’t already know what’s going on with us. But He wants us to be honest with Him. When in prayer, He wants us to talk to Him about our emotions and feelings. We should confess our sins and repent. He wants us to talk to Him our life issues.

We must be honest with ourselves. God wants us to accept who we are in Him and live as our true selves, rather than try live according to other people’s expectations.  We can accept who we are and who we are created to be?

We must be honest with others. Don’t lie! Be truthful with your husband, children, family, friends and co-workers. Be known as a woman with character who tells the truth and can be trusted.

So what gets in the way of being an honest woman? The desire for money, self promotion, title or position can be very enticing. But we can’t let anything throw us of the honesty train. A woman of character is honest and lives her life that way!

For we aim at what is honorable not only in the Lord's sight but also in the sight of man. 2 Corinthians 8:21




Living It Out


1. Lying lips are an abomination to the Lord, but those who act faithfully are his delight. Proverbs 12:22. Knowing this is true, what are some things that could tempt a Christ follower into being dishonest?


2. Do you believe that being dishonest with yourself is better or worse than being dishonest with others? Why?

3. To become a woman of character, we must be trustworthy. Name some ways we can become trustworthy with our spouse, children, friends, co-workers.

4. Think of a situation where you needed to be honest with someone. Was it about you or the other person? Were you honest with love and kindness or with judgment?


Prayer Points
Pray and ask the Lord to reveal to you any areas of dishonesty in your life. Repent and ask for forgiveness. Then ask God to show you a new way of living with honesty in all areas of your life.


Further Study
Using online tools, or a study bible, find at least 10 scriptures that pertain to honesty. Try www.biblegateway.com  as an online resource.





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